PLEASE NOTE: Although for some time my practice was divided between in-person and online sessions, during this time of social distancing my practice will be moving to exclusively telecounseling. I use a friendly, easy to use HIPAA compliant platform called Thera-link. Please reach out with any questions regarding this.
We are all together sharing in this unchartered territory of dealing with a global pandemic. What does this mean for you, your relationships and your family?
We are dealing with fear. We worry for our loved ones and ourselves. We are dealing with loneliness. We are dealing with boredom and guilt.
If you or your family member is a front line worker, feelings of fear and worry are combined with exhaustion and many other feelings. I hope you are also feeling the gratitude of the wider community.
For those in primary intimate relationships, all these feelings may trigger friction between the two of you or if you're lucky feelings of unique support and togetherness. My focus at this time when I work with couples, is to learn the value and discipline of turning towards each other at this time and future times of stress. This is when you can build on the strength of two special individuals and see what you can have together as team. Try to be aware of a tendency to take out our feelings of worry and fear on each other and learn to talk about it instead. It's completely normal to have underlying stress and confusion but the answer is sharing this with those you love.
This time is also a unique time to build something new in your relationships. See what you can take and learn from this very difficult time.
For those not currently in an intimate relationship, support is just as crucial if not more. If you're feeling alone, try to reach out to friends and family and share in a reciprocal way for each other. This can be a time to enrich relationships in your life you may not normally have time to focus on.
If you can begin by being caring and curious about the others' feelings it can help make this time happier and more connected. Use this time to remember to notice what you appreciate or love in your partner, friend or family member and share the appreciation. This can lead to fresh energy in your relationship. Take the chance to give this thinking some real life and find small ways to express it. It's so simple, yet so powerful. It takes a little effort, but the payback is enormous and way more than the effort taken.
For couples, showing appreciation can become a regular practice in your relationship. You can also do this for yourself by shifting your inner voice to one of love and appreciation rather than harshness and criticism.
Whether you're an individual or a couple, this is an opportunity to learn how to grow in new ways.
Let's work together towards first examining what you need to best weather this time and later see about following through to make lasting change.
Some people feel a sense of anxiety as they consider beginning therapy. There's a sense of not knowing what it will bring and anxiety over the change of bringing new energy towards themselves or their relationships. This is a unique time where it's really about extra support to share your feelings and learn how to make the best of this time.
I also see the courage my clients have when they come in feeling out of control with the state of current events but also with the power of hope to make things better and stronger. I see the humanity in this work and how it can bring you to new places of potential beauty.
Please call or email me for an individual, couple or family therapy consultation today.
"I understand life can be messy and out of balance. I am here to help you chart your course."
Would you like to learn how to communicate so you can truly feel heard , better understand each other, feel happier, supported and more connected in your relationship ? Would you like to regain the essence of who you once were that brought you together?
If you are dating and thinking of taking a step towards commitment . It's a great idea to come in and discuss important topics to understand and appreciate each other. You can build a strong foundation and feel confident about your decision to make a commitment.
If you are engaged come in for the Wedding premarital package and continue to nurture your relationship while working towards your plans for your ceremony or wedding. Understand and get on same page about important topics like extended family, friends, career and more because you value your relationship and want to have the best start. Walk down the aisle feeling confident about the strength of your relationship and ability to truly hear each other.
If you are married or in long term committed relationship and feeling disconnected from each other with frequent arguing or feeling alone.
... or if you are struggling with a lack of intimacy . It wasn't intentional. You are both busy with kids, work and so many other parts of life. It's hard to find time for each other. Let's work to heal, bring you back together, rediscover and create new connection and joy .
I love working with couples from diverse backgrounds uncover new ways to connect and build a strong, secure foundation, whether in a new relationship or one that's lasted for years.
If you are an individual looking to move past a stuck point in life with relationships, work, career, family, self-esteem or other areas let's work together to see how to remember your unique qualities and strengths and begin to move forward.
Please feel free to call me or send an email for a phone consult to see if you would be a good fit with my practice. Please select the contact me on the left bar of screen.
I enjoy my work with couples and individuals from diverse backgrounds that are working to improve relationships with their partner, colleagues, family or friends. Many of my clients are couples that would like to increase their connection, better understand each other and feel understood and enhance their intimacy. Some are working to heal from infidelity or other issues that have come up for the couple. I strongly believe in premarital work to create a strong foundation for marriage, as well as, a sense of confidence to navigate sensitive issues in a respectful and appreciative manner.